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Holding Submissives Accountable (pt. II)

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, December 2, 2018, In : D/s Dynamics 
(Click here for Pt. I if you haven't read it yet.)

I received a quality message from a long-distance submissive the other day:



The messages go on to outline how exactly this situation will be ameliorated, and it was. This is a perfect example, despite the notable lack of "I apologize." A trifecta: acceptance, confession, action. Here is the breakdown:



Acceptance creates the conditions necessary to overcome an obstacle. When a submissive understands that their behavior is problematic, it starts t...

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Holding Submissives Accountable (pt. I)

Posted by Madame Rax on Thursday, November 29, 2018, In : D/s Dynamics 
As Dominants, we've encountered submissives who chronically try to avoid liability and blame. They'll say anything possible to get out of trouble. They'll make excuses, become withdrawn/avoidant, and deflect - going to great lengths to take the focus off a problem they've created. But this creates a new problem; because they’re busy steering clear of culpability, they’re refusing to ameliorate the actual stumbling block.

“BUT MY CHILDHOOD”
“BUT MY FEELINGS”
“BUT WHEN I WAS A K...
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Constructing a Submissive Cue Glossary

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, December 14, 2016, In : Madame's Own 
In BDSM, communication is key. But what happens when dirty talk or extensive discussion - or even words themselves - are the enemy? 

Construct a glossary and give it to your Dominant.

If verbal communication is not your primary method of externalizing how you feel, you can think of all of the ways you show your feelings. Take a photo of each face or gesture, put it in a chart, and use a brief sentence to explain how you feel in any given situation.



This does not have to be a graphic, though a gl...

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