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Constructing a Submissive Cue Glossary

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, December 14, 2016, In : Madame's Own 
In BDSM, communication is key. But what happens when dirty talk or extensive discussion - or even words themselves - are the enemy? 

Construct a glossary and give it to your Dominant.

If verbal communication is not your primary method of externalizing how you feel, you can think of all of the ways you show your feelings. Take a photo of each face or gesture, put it in a chart, and use a brief sentence to explain how you feel in any given situation.



This does not have to be a graphic, though a gl...

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Framing a Powerful Session

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, March 16, 2016, In : Sessioning 
As I've mentioned before, the goal of My sessions is to elicit a powerful moment. A catharsis, or at the very least, a wave of emotions -- all in the context of underlying nurturance. So, what is nurturance, and how is it applicable to BDSM? 

Nurturance is emotional or physical care and nourishment of someone who, for the purposes of this post, is usually in a vulnerable position. It is an idea that has gained traction in popular blog posts, such as this one, The Opposite of Rape Culture is Nu...
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Domme-Avoidance.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, February 26, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 
There are few things more enraging for a Domme than avoidance. Many manifestations of this frustrating behavior are apparent in the Pro-Domme world:
  • refusing to leave a deposit or other required component of sessioning
  • flaking out, no-call/no-show, complete disregard for communication
  • not Tributing a proper, required, or pre-determined amount 
  • not returning phone calls or emails for more information
  • ignoring a Domme's repeated and consistent wishes
  • refusing to give personal information when require...

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Breakthrough.

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, February 10, 2016, In : Rehabilitation 
"It’s nothing as trite as a bucket list.  When you reach a certain age you start thinking about the future, regrets if any, things you would have to leave in a problematic state if you suddenly passed.  I do not have much time left.
 
Twenty five years ago I did something incredibly foolish.  It was impulsive, non-violent, sexually-motivated, selfish.  It inconvenienced a woman, violated her space, and I regretted it almost immediately.  And for the next twenty-five years.  I’ve tried getti...

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Structuring of Sessions

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, January 31, 2016, In : Sessioning 
There are various ways I conduct sessions (of an online or real-time nature). They can be as high-protocol as necessary, or they can be quite low-protocol. My specific protocol is blended, mostly. Though I do have more formal lines:

Very High Protocol: Militaristic, controlled.

Default State - Silence until spoken to - when answering a question about yourself, answer in third person.
(e.g. "This slave will get no reward, acknowledged, Madame. It has been punished effectively.").
Gesture Command...
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Cardinal Sins of Submission

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, January 8, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 
There are quite a few things I've noticed that submissives will do wrong, that Dommes will tolerate. It is time that Dommes stop tolerating this nonsense:

1. Time-Wasting - If you want to speak to a Domme, remunerate Her for Her time. $20-$50 is appropriate for most Dommes. If you are not prepared to do this, talk to an amateur (who may be a man hiding behind a computer screen, for all you know). A Domme is not the place to have fantasy-life diarrhea. She is valuable and has a good amount of i...
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If you've never seen a professional before...

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, December 6, 2015, In : Sessioning 
There are a few things you need to know, regarding a session with Me.

First, never understate any of your experience. Don't exaggerate either, but it is especially important that you state how much experience you have, in a direct fashion (so I know). Otherwise, I will conduct the session at an introductory-ish level of intensity, rather than pushing and stretching your limits. The goal is to meet and exceed your level. 

Second, sessions act as a barometer for your niche in BDSM. There will alw...
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My Session Goals.

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, December 5, 2015, In : Sessioning 
When entering into a position of risk, the reward is not simply the act of risk-taking. Something has to incentivize such a situation, making it, as they say, "worth the risk". In the case of a professional session, one is risking the loss associated with Tributing for a session that ends up being a letdown. This creates fear of the session ending without meeting a particular goal (or set of them). This is an unfounded fear, seen as legitimate only because the submissive is unaware that I car...

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A session in pictures.

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, August 16, 2015, In : Sessioning 





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A Session in Photos

Posted by Madame Rax on Tuesday, April 14, 2015, In : Sessioning 

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A Session, In Pictures.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, March 20, 2015, In : Sessioning 





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Madame's Own Sessions:

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, February 17, 2014, In : Madame's Own 
There are quite a few unique types of sessions that I've pioneered over the years, and I will share a few now:

1. Bad Girlfriend Sessions: I developed this type of session approximately seven years ago. In a public setting (such as a mall, outlet center, or set of stores), I drag you around, being bossy and pushy (though not too over-the-top if discretion is a must), and do demeaning, nasty things to you. I berate you, have you count every dollar out loud that you give to a cashier, require th...
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Lady and the Trampled.

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, February 17, 2014, In : Sessioning 
A recent session I facilitated was a trampling session. It was pretty enjoyable. I loved to be able to crush his tiny, frail body under My weight and power. Hard surfaces, soft surfaces, kicking, spitting, puppy/pony play, I was a giantess and he was My hapless victim. Slipped into space a few times, I had to slap him back into reality. The soundtrack was delighful, and I'm glad it went well, despite the narrow interests of the sub. 


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Most recent session.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, January 31, 2014, In : Sessioning 
Blindfolded, gagged, mummified, e-stim with a TENS unit, wartenberg pinwheel bastinado, extreme degradation and humiliation, golden delights, and human ashtray. All were beautiful. I approve this slave's stamina!
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What Sorts of Things Will Madame Rax Do?

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, January 24, 2014, In : Sessioning 
So, in My bag of tricks, I have a myriad of items:

Bondage-Related: Ropes of different types and textures. Under-bed restraint system. Blindfolds. Handcuffs. Plastic Wrap.
E-Stim: 7-mode, 5-level intensity TENS Unit.
Impact: My hands, floggers, whips, canes, rulers, and other delights.
Misc: Large and small cocks (tease only, no penetration), makeup for feminization, and many other session-specific items.

I can accommodate: adult baby sessions with diapers and a few select props, foot fetish/wor...
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