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Holding Submissives Accountable (pt. II)

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, December 2, 2018, In : D/s Dynamics 
(Click here for Pt. I if you haven't read it yet.)

I received a quality message from a long-distance submissive the other day:

The messages go on to outline how exactly this situation will be ameliorated, and it was. This is a perfect example, despite the notable lack of "I apologize." A trifecta: acceptance, confession, action. Here is the breakdown:

Acceptance creates the conditions necessary to overcome an obstacle. When a submissive understands that their behavior is problematic, it starts t...

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Holding Submissives Accountable (pt. I)

Posted by Madame Rax on Thursday, November 29, 2018, In : D/s Dynamics 
As Dominants, we've encountered submissives who chronically try to avoid liability and blame. They'll say anything possible to get out of trouble. They'll make excuses, become withdrawn/avoidant, and deflect - going to great lengths to take the focus off a problem they've created. But this creates a new problem; because they’re busy steering clear of culpability, they’re refusing to ameliorate the actual stumbling block.

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BDSM as Liability, Free from Culpability.

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, March 28, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 
Within the mainstream media, there are instances of pernicious uses of BDSM terms. Ignorant appropriations with reductive effects abound. Misunderstandings are the norm, rather than the exception. As most BDSM Professionals can attest, there are very few cases, if any, that present D/s dynamics in the proper light. In order to dispel many myths, I will personally go through a few situations, and correct them. 

Jian Ghomeshi.

This case happened in Canada. At first, it was reported (in the US, at...
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