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Domestic Training

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, December 14, 2019, In : Madame's Own 
These days, I am moving past professional sessions and more into household slavery / Domme at Home practices. 

As such, I've spent a considerable amount of time learning how to hone the Domestic training regimen. 

Checklists

For the purpose of organization, it is paramount to keep a list of tasks that need to be done. Here is a sample from Molly Maid in PDF format. If you're a Boomer, feel free to ask a Millennial relative to save and open it for you. https://www.mollymaid.com/documents/pdfs/MLY...

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If.

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, November 17, 2019, In : D/s Dynamics 
If you regale Me with stories of extreme sessions, I expect you to have extreme endurance.
If you don't perform extremely, I assume you are simply talking.

If you say you want an extreme transformation, I expect you'll excel at every task I give along the way.
If you don't perform to the best of your ability, I assume you don't have much.

If you can trust any past Dominants with your life, I expect you'll trust Me when I push you towards the finish line.
If you don't perform in a way that suggests...
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The Art of Sublime Invasion: Surveillance (pt. 1)

Posted by Madame Rax on Thursday, August 1, 2019, In : Madame's Own 
As far as men go, it is not what they are that interests me, but what they can become. —Jean-Paul Sartre

According to the Japanese: The 本音 (honne), or private self, is the sum of the "true" thoughts / wishes of a person. The 建前 (tatemae), or public face, is the version shown to the public. Muslims call these ظاهر (baten) and باطن (zaher), respectively. In America, we refer to these as our "authentic self" and our "Facebook facade." In any case, the idea that our private lives...
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True Life: I Have a Domestic Slave

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, January 6, 2019, In : Personal Interests 
Okay, MTV, let's not get ahead of ourselves - I actually have two household drudges. I preside happily over these workhorse submissives; it feels like the most natural order. As I have mentioned before, I absolutely love domestic slaves. I am currently working on assembling a dream, wherein I live in a castle attended by a team of slaves plodding along like a well-oiled machine in order to free up My time to focus more on the most important work: BDSM. I call this The Castle Plan; I will be t...
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Holding Submissives Accountable (pt. II)

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, December 2, 2018, In : D/s Dynamics 
(Click here for Pt. I if you haven't read it yet.)

I received a quality message from a long-distance submissive the other day:



The messages go on to outline how exactly this situation will be ameliorated, and it was. This is a perfect example, despite the notable lack of "I apologize." A trifecta: acceptance, confession, action. Here is the breakdown:



Acceptance creates the conditions necessary to overcome an obstacle. When a submissive understands that their behavior is problematic, it starts t...

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Holding Submissives Accountable (pt. I)

Posted by Madame Rax on Thursday, November 29, 2018, In : D/s Dynamics 
As Dominants, we've encountered submissives who chronically try to avoid liability and blame. They'll say anything possible to get out of trouble. They'll make excuses, become withdrawn/avoidant, and deflect - going to great lengths to take the focus off a problem they've created. But this creates a new problem; because they’re busy steering clear of culpability, they’re refusing to ameliorate the actual stumbling block.

“BUT MY CHILDHOOD”
“BUT MY FEELINGS”
“BUT WHEN I WAS A K...
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The Rapture of Surrender

Posted by Madame Rax on Tuesday, May 29, 2018, In : Madame's Own 
It is exceedingly difficult for even the most pliable of submissives to make the transformative Total Power Exchange (TPE). 

The slave wants to rebel, break free, fight back. Their own narratives are central to their desires. Their whims come first.

So what happens if they give them up? 

Many things, if the Dominant is a good one. 

The initial surrender may feel terrifying, especially to a person who is as guarded as most submissives are. Because Dominance is so commonly abused, slaves must pract...
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The Guilt / Shame Cycle

Posted by Madame Rax on Tuesday, April 24, 2018, In : D/s Dynamics 
Due to the nature of My work, I have taken many submissives who experience a very profound cycle.

Lurking and Learning - they try to get to know Me on a desperate level. Furiously Googling every corner of the web for My name and permutations of My contact information to try to figure out if I'm "safe" and "sane." Looking for evidence that I'm some sort of whatever their worst case scenario is. Cannot find it, because I'm not a thief and I'm far too much of an anarchist to cooperate with author...
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My Domination Toolbox

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, April 13, 2018, In : Madame's Own 
In order to be an effective Dominant, I've gone through a long process of acquiring tools and honing techniques. Each one I've honed to My liking. As I always say, Dominance is getting your slave to want what YOU want... for their benefit -- and ultimately yours.

The tools I've developed for this are the following:
 
Logic
Exampling
Punishment
Tease/Denial
Conditioning
Sexuality
Force

Logic is a tool that is most effective for convincing a slave they *need* to do something, or they'll naturally e...

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Updates for the Recently Deceased:

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, March 17, 2018, In : Sessioning 
Where hath your Madame gone, lately?

Well, in December, I was in a coma. Had pneumonia, lungs failed, on life support, almost died. Had to fully recover once extubated (VERY Exorcist, roman shower fetishists would have loved it). Have returned to being a POWERHOUSE. Physically more healthy than I've been in years, stronger (going to the gym a lot), and quit smoking - to some of your chagrin. 

I've made this site more mobile-friendly.
I had a beautiful session with My trans chastity slave. 
I have...
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Constructing a Submissive Cue Glossary

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, December 14, 2016, In : Madame's Own 
In BDSM, communication is key. But what happens when dirty talk or extensive discussion - or even words themselves - are the enemy? 

Construct a glossary and give it to your Dominant.

If verbal communication is not your primary method of externalizing how you feel, you can think of all of the ways you show your feelings. Take a photo of each face or gesture, put it in a chart, and use a brief sentence to explain how you feel in any given situation.



This does not have to be a graphic, though a gl...

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50 Shades of Trump: A Dominatrix's View.

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, October 12, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 


Surprise, surprise. Back to talking about 50 Shades again. Because if there's anything more beloved by the masses than taking BDSM out of context, it's using it to excuse abuse and violation. 

Starting off: there is an extreme difference between Dominance and abuse. That difference is consent. Consent is a ubiquitous necessity, even for vanilla people! A lack of it is what elevates the average sexual experience from intercourse to sexual assault. It's what changes boxing to attempted murder. T...

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Managing a Harem Effectively.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, October 7, 2016, In : Personal Interests 
In my time, I've managed quite a few groups of humans. Some of which were lovers, friends, cohabitants, volunteers, slaves. I have had simultaneous lovers living with Me, and I've had lovers living in separate spaces who came together with Me. It can be very difficult to manage these groups, but I've acquired some helpful tips for those who are brave (and perhaps ridiculous) enough to walk in My shoes. But it is also necessary to provide a solid foundation on which to give this information:

Th...
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Tickle Torture and the Psychology of "Oochy-Coochy-Coo"

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, August 3, 2016, In : Madame's Own 
Tickling is a phenomenon. Outwardly a playful, laughter-inducing activity, it can be lighthearted and pleasant. But it has a darker side: tickling indicates dominance, can reduce someone to tears, and it has even been used as a method to kill people at various times in history, including the Holocaust.

So, what is tickling? First, it is necessary to note that not all tickling is the same. There are two types of tickle sensations that are perceptible to human touch. The first is called knismes...
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Newsletter! Changes! Updates! *lure*

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, July 20, 2016, In : Madame's Own 
Ch-ch-ch-changes!

MadameRax.com has had some revamping:

Findom menu now includes Bitcoin, a gallery of gifts, and the beginnings of My video catalog
There is now an "Invasive Measures" section, with blackmail and surveillance.
In surveillance, I listed the programs I use for distance monitoring/control.
I added a menu under "About" for Stats - so you can see more about Me.
Writing is a new menu item, and that is where this Blog is located. 
Sessions gained menus for ABDL, Double Domme, and Trainin...
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A Love Letter to Servants and Slaves.

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, June 25, 2016, In : Personal Interests 
Despite My very clear and present Atheism, I am incredibly excited by religiosity, particularly of the Christian variety. The imagery, the moral outrage, the judgment, damnation, mortification of the flesh, transmogrification, incest, abuse, torture, withholding, punishment. It's all terribly resplendent to Me, and thus I find Myself very attracted to the deviant, sinful, and immoral behaviors that provoke the wrath of an entire deity. 

We often say in BDSM, that our practice is a "break" from...
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Help! I'm not like this, it's just my fantasy!

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, June 10, 2016, In : Personal Interests 
Over the years, I have had clients say to Me, "look, I'm really not a misogynist, but I have this overwhelming fantasy of watching women get stabbed in the stomach" - or -"I have this awkward fantasy where I'm yelling racist slurs at people outside my race, and it makes me uncomfortable!"

Know that you are not alone in your apprehension.  

I was speaking to a friend of Mine earlier, and he confided that he was concerned about some of his fetishes, because they involved fantasies which revolved ...
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On Bad Behavior of Submissives Who Seek Pro-Dommes.

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, May 28, 2016, In : Sessioning 
Due to the nature of My specific type of BDSM practice, I am woefully disgusted by many things that Dommes endure. When I see reviews of other Dommes using language intended for self-described "whoremonger" review sites. Within the sites that contain testimonials about fellow Dommes in My area, it is not uncommon to see descriptions of body parts or types written as a butcher would describe cuts of their slaughter. For women who don't mind this level of objectification (mind you, I use that t...
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Synergy and the Beast.

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, May 21, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 


In any relationship, BDSM or otherwise, a dance takes place. This sort of dance may be singularly beneficial, separate but equally beneficial, toxic (to one or both, multiplicative or otherwise), or synergistic. The goal of a BDSM relationship, as well as a vanilla one, should be synergy.

To start, synergy is not some sort of "woo" term with metaphysical underpinnings. It's not what powers the imaginary Illuminati. It isn't the stuff Jesus is made of; it's a concrete principle. Simply put, it...
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Living, Breathing TPE.

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, April 17, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 


In the BDSM community, there are quite a few mentions of TPE. This is especially true when discussing fantasies. Despite the fact that there are many fantasy-based desires for a Total Power Exchange, very few people are actually comfortable engaging in it, in real life. Slaves are often afraid to give that much of themselves to another person, even though the thought may temporarily excite them. Given that TPE involves a lack of limits and completely entrenched slavery with potentially very l...

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BDSM as Liability, Free from Culpability.

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, March 28, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 
Within the mainstream media, there are instances of pernicious uses of BDSM terms. Ignorant appropriations with reductive effects abound. Misunderstandings are the norm, rather than the exception. As most BDSM Professionals can attest, there are very few cases, if any, that present D/s dynamics in the proper light. In order to dispel many myths, I will personally go through a few situations, and correct them. 

Jian Ghomeshi.



This case happened in Canada. At first, it was reported (in the US, at...
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Domme-Avoidance.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, February 26, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 
There are few things more enraging for a Domme than avoidance. Many manifestations of this frustrating behavior are apparent in the Pro-Domme world:
  • refusing to leave a deposit or other required component of sessioning
  • flaking out, no-call/no-show, complete disregard for communication
  • not Tributing a proper, required, or pre-determined amount 
  • not returning phone calls or emails for more information
  • ignoring a Domme's repeated and consistent wishes
  • refusing to give personal information when require...

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Structuring of Sessions

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, January 31, 2016, In : Sessioning 
There are various ways I conduct sessions (of an online or real-time nature). They can be as high-protocol as necessary, or they can be quite low-protocol. My specific protocol is blended, mostly. Though I do have more formal lines:

Very High Protocol: Militaristic, controlled.

Default State - Silence until spoken to - when answering a question about yourself, answer in third person.
(e.g. "This slave will get no reward, acknowledged, Madame. It has been punished effectively.").
Gesture Command...
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Cardinal Sins of Submission

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, January 8, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 
There are quite a few things I've noticed that submissives will do wrong, that Dommes will tolerate. It is time that Dommes stop tolerating this nonsense:

1. Time-Wasting - If you want to speak to a Domme, remunerate Her for Her time. $20-$50 is appropriate for most Dommes. If you are not prepared to do this, talk to an amateur (who may be a man hiding behind a computer screen, for all you know). A Domme is not the place to have fantasy-life diarrhea. She is valuable and has a good amount of i...
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My Session Goals.

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, December 5, 2015, In : Sessioning 
When entering into a position of risk, the reward is not simply the act of risk-taking. Something has to incentivize such a situation, making it, as they say, "worth the risk". In the case of a professional session, one is risking the loss associated with Tributing for a session that ends up being a letdown. This creates fear of the session ending without meeting a particular goal (or set of them). This is an unfounded fear, seen as legitimate only because the submissive is unaware that I car...

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Capitalism & Domination: A Love Story

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, November 18, 2015, In : D/s Dynamics 
“Paying for it is a buzzkill.” “I like to have free sessions because it’s more real.” “Other inane platitudes that amount to cheapassery.”

Let’s sit around the campfire and discuss how there is a gulf between submissives and Dommes, in a monetary way. 

First, we shall define money, as provided in a concise sentence provided by Merriam Webster: 


  • Something generally accepted as a medium of exchange, a measure of value, or a means of payment.

When you have the urge to submit to a Dom...

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Cophrophagia, Urolagnia, and Cannibalism - oh My!

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, November 13, 2015, In : Personal Interests 
The Aghori (sadhus) are an ascetic group who live primarily in India - cremation sites, the desolate Thar desert in Gujarat, and freezing Himalayan caves. They take a monist (as opposed to dualist) approach to life, and thus believe that all things most people would consider evil or virtuous are, in fact, one. To the Aghori, there are no Good or Bad things. They believe that they should deny themselves physical pleasures and embrace things humans normally avoid, like death, coprophagia, and c...
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Non-Erotic Ageplay for Psychological Value

Posted by Madame Rax on Tuesday, November 3, 2015, In : D/s Dynamics 
In reading a chapter from Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission, I had a sudden realization that Ageplay may have a practical application within the confines of even vanilla relationships. 

As children, most humans come from a place of vulnerability and a cycle of needs/wants. As adults, most people who care for various forms of children have an underlying empathy, compassion, and understanding for these tiny people. As well, said adults have a higher degree of conside...

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Not just debit card games.

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, August 12, 2015, In : Madame's Own 
Hold account numbers, passwords, access to email, Facebook/SM pages, keyloggers, online text/call/GPS tracker, in-home surveillance with remote viewing, dietary restrictions, occasional Domme-led wishlist spending sprees, booking vacations, occasional assignments, opening lines of credit or loans, blackmail...

These are a few of My favorite things.

Madame.

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A Session, In Pictures.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, March 20, 2015, In : Sessioning 





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Discounted sessions? Must love being filmed.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, June 20, 2014, In : Sessioning 
I am seeking video slaves for filmed sessions. Setting will be incall, in Logan Square, and instead of My normal tribute of $250, a filmed session will take place for $150/hr. Incredible and rare discount - don't miss it. I have the camera and equipment, you only need to bring your willingness and consent to be filmed - most of My regular clients are unable to appear on film due to family and lifestyle related reasons.

I am looking for the following sorts of sessions:

  • Feminization
  • Spanking with ...

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Madame's Own Sessions:

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, February 17, 2014, In : Madame's Own 
There are quite a few unique types of sessions that I've pioneered over the years, and I will share a few now:

1. Bad Girlfriend Sessions: I developed this type of session approximately seven years ago. In a public setting (such as a mall, outlet center, or set of stores), I drag you around, being bossy and pushy (though not too over-the-top if discretion is a must), and do demeaning, nasty things to you. I berate you, have you count every dollar out loud that you give to a cashier, require th...
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Domination in Stages: Hegelian Dialectics and D/s relationships.

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, December 15, 2013, In : D/s Dynamics 
In the more philosophy-heavy sects of BDSM, practitioners will discuss Foucault and hierarchies of power. This has an obvious connection: D/s dynamics are reflections of the "natural order" brought about by the human desire for organization. I, however, prefer to make more subtle connections to behavioral mechanisms within My own brand of Domination. I use a system in which I like to draw on an altered form of Hegelian dialectics, specifically the so-called "freedom dialectic" or, more approp...
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