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Constructing a Submissive Cue Glossary

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, December 14, 2016, In : Madame's Own

In BDSM, communication is key. But what happens when dirty talk or extensive discussion - or even words themselves - are the enemy?

Construct a glossary and give it to your Dominant.

If verbal communication is not your primary method of externalizing how you feel, you can think of all of the ways you show your feelings. Take a photo of each face or gesture, put it in a chart, and use a brief sentence to explain how you feel in any given situation.

This does not have to be a graphic, though a gl...

All Women Secretly Love Being Dominated

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, December 10, 2016, In : Personal Interests

If you have ever read the comments on an article about consent or courting women, you will likely see the phrase "deep down, all women love to be dominated." I am personally met with inquiries fairly regularly: "Madame, You are a powerful, sexy woman, I bet You just LOVE let your hair down and take the business end of a whip, or get a firm backhand from an Alpha Male, right?" After all, it would make sense to be a Person-of-Power activity - male CEOs have the stereotype that they all love to ...
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50 Shades of Trump: A Dominatrix's View.

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, October 12, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics

Surprise, surprise. Back to talking about 50 Shades again. Because if there's anything more beloved by the masses than taking BDSM out of context, it's using it to excuse abuse and violation.

Starting off: there is an extreme difference between Dominance and abuse. That difference is consent. Consent is a ubiquitous necessity, even for vanilla people! A lack of it is what elevates the average sexual experience from intercourse to sexual assault. It's what changes boxing to attempted murder. T...

Michael Phelps' kink links: BDSM and Cupping!

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, August 13, 2016, In : Personal Interests

Michael Phelps is no stranger to controversy. Just as he excels in his respective sports, he draws a commensurate amount of attention to his personal life. In 2004, he was arrested and sentenced to 18 months' probation for a DUI charge. In 2009, a photo was published where he was smoking a bong filled with marijuana. This caused him to receive disciplinary action from several sponsor companies, and seemed to damage his relationship with some of his younger fans. In 2012, he was arrested again...
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Framing a Powerful Session

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, March 16, 2016, In : Sessioning

As I've mentioned before, the goal of My sessions is to elicit a powerful moment. A catharsis, or at the very least, a wave of emotions -- all in the context of underlying nurturance. So, what is nurturance, and how is it applicable to BDSM?

Nurturance is emotional or physical care and nourishment of someone who, for the purposes of this post, is usually in a vulnerable position. It is an idea that has gained traction in popular blog posts, such as this one, The Opposite of Rape Culture is Nu...
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