Capitalism & BDSM

“Paying for it is a buzzkill.” “I like to have free sessions because it’s more real.” Other inane platitudes that amount to cheap-assery.

Let’s sit around the campfire and discuss how there is a gulf between submissives and Dommes, in a monetary way.

First, we shall define money, as provided in a concise sentence provided by Merriam Webster:

Something generally accepted as a medium of exchange, a measure of value, or a means of payment.

When you have the urge to submit to a Domme, you are desiring to exchange something of value: a well-stocked dungeon, years of skill, time of day from a professional who gets messages by the thousands from submissives who are begging to monopolize it. She is a scarce resource.

And like any scarce resource, there is an incentive to pay for it. If you ever find a Domme who will haphazardly indulge the whim of any submissive looking to take up her time, time that could otherwise be spent to further her BDSM education, skillset, or experience … let Me know. I’ve never seen one. As a Domme, I’ve been begged by literally thousands of subs over the past decade, and if I engaged every one, I’d be stretched so thin I wouldn’t be able to function. There is not enough time, there are not enough days, there are not enough resources. There are, however, those willing to pay for a service – and that sets them apart from the screaming void.

Just as you wouldn’t argue that your mechanic should change your oil for free, don’t ask a Domme to dom for free. There’s no mystique about monetary exchange. Nothing inherent in currency that deflates the importance of a Domme on your psychological well-being. There is, however, a deflation in how much you value your Domme by how much of your hard-earned money you part with, for Her.

If you expect pay a goddamn therapist, ALWAYS expect to pay a Dominatrix!