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Synergy and the Beast.

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, May 21, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 


In any relationship, BDSM or otherwise, a dance takes place. This sort of dance may be singularly beneficial, separate but equally beneficial, toxic (to one or both, multiplicative or otherwise), or synergistic. The goal of a BDSM relationship, as well as a vanilla one, should be synergy.

To start, synergy is not some sort of "woo" term with metaphysical underpinnings. It's not what powers the imaginary Illuminati. It isn't the stuff Jesus is made of; it's a concrete principle. Simply put, it...
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Capitalism & Domination: A Love Story

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, November 18, 2015, In : D/s Dynamics 
“Paying for it is a buzzkill.” “I like to have free sessions because it’s more real.” “Other inane platitudes that amount to cheapassery.”

Let’s sit around the campfire and discuss how there is a gulf between submissives and Dommes, in a monetary way. 

First, we shall define money, as provided in a concise sentence provided by Merriam Webster: 


  • Something generally accepted as a medium of exchange, a measure of value, or a means of payment.

When you have the urge to submit to a Dom...

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Non-Erotic Ageplay for Psychological Value

Posted by Madame Rax on Tuesday, November 3, 2015, In : D/s Dynamics 
In reading a chapter from Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission, I had a sudden realization that Ageplay may have a practical application within the confines of even vanilla relationships. 

As children, most humans come from a place of vulnerability and a cycle of needs/wants. As adults, most people who care for various forms of children have an underlying empathy, compassion, and understanding for these tiny people. As well, said adults have a higher degree of conside...

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3 Major Communication Problems & Their Fixes.

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, September 21, 2015, In : D/s Dynamics 
In life, most people have difficulty arranging the right words to come out of their face at the correct speed, volume, and inflection to achieve optimal results. To make a business deal, get a job, buy a car, negotiate a rent price, receive a promotion - all of these things require great care in communication. 

Enter personal desire: all of the above things, one can argue, are not necessary per se, but integral to happiness or self-efficacy. But, what happens when the thing you crave isn't nec...
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Financial Slavery Rehabilitation.

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, August 3, 2015, In : Rehabilitation 
So, I have been thinking lately, about My relationship with slaves who are hopelessly addicted to financial domination. 

When I say "hopelessly addicted" - I mean it. Let's take into account the definition of addiction:

Addiction is a condition that results when a person ingests a substance or engages in an activity that can be pleasurable but the continued use/act of which becomes compulsive and interferes with ordinary life responsibilities, such as work, relationships, or health.

If that isn'...
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Not a Prostitute.

Posted by Madame Rax on Thursday, March 6, 2014, In : D/s Dynamics 
Anyone who knows Me will vouch for the fact that I am very much an advocate for prostitutes. I work diligently in several ways to try to point out inconsistencies in the law and practice, have written several very public pieces about the problems that arise from the criminalization of prostitution, and that I'm still actively trying to get sex work included in the NCSF's statements - because sexual freedom doesn't stop at kink - the freedom to SELL sex is a sexual freedom issue.

That said: I a...

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