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50 Shades of Trump: A Dominatrix's View.

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, October 12, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 


Surprise, surprise. Back to talking about 50 Shades again. Because if there's anything more beloved by the masses than taking BDSM out of context, it's using it to excuse abuse and violation. 

Starting off: there is an extreme difference between Dominance and abuse. That difference is consent. Consent is a ubiquitous necessity, even for vanilla people! A lack of it is what elevates the average sexual experience from intercourse to sexual assault. It's what changes boxing to attempted murder. T...

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Tickle Torture and the Psychology of "Oochy-Coochy-Coo"

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, August 3, 2016, In : Madame's Own 
Tickling is a phenomenon. Outwardly a playful, laughter-inducing activity, it can be lighthearted and pleasant. But it has a darker side: tickling indicates dominance, can reduce someone to tears, and it has even been used as a method to kill people at various times in history, including the Holocaust.

So, what is tickling? First, it is necessary to note that not all tickling is the same. There are two types of tickle sensations that are perceptible to human touch. The first is called knismes...
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Synergy and the Beast.

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, May 21, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 


In any relationship, BDSM or otherwise, a dance takes place. This sort of dance may be singularly beneficial, separate but equally beneficial, toxic (to one or both, multiplicative or otherwise), or synergistic. The goal of a BDSM relationship, as well as a vanilla one, should be synergy.

To start, synergy is not some sort of "woo" term with metaphysical underpinnings. It's not what powers the imaginary Illuminati. It isn't the stuff Jesus is made of; it's a concrete principle. Simply put, it...
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Framing a Powerful Session

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, March 16, 2016, In : Sessioning 
As I've mentioned before, the goal of My sessions is to elicit a powerful moment. A catharsis, or at the very least, a wave of emotions -- all in the context of underlying nurturance. So, what is nurturance, and how is it applicable to BDSM? 

Nurturance is emotional or physical care and nourishment of someone who, for the purposes of this post, is usually in a vulnerable position. It is an idea that has gained traction in popular blog posts, such as this one, The Opposite of Rape Culture is Nu...
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My Methodology, in points.

Posted by Madame Rax on Thursday, February 18, 2016,
The first step is reviewing My website. It is full of information about Me, My thoughts and evil-doing, and the method to My madness. There are all sorts of links, videos, and other tidbits on there. Learn it, absorb it, feel it, attach to it, live it. If you approach Me, show your preparedness: I am not going to engage in small talk and nonsense. If I were to cater to every slave I’d be in the hole, rather than the black. And I revel in the black.

The second step is filling out any appropri...

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Breakthrough.

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, February 10, 2016, In : Rehabilitation 
"It’s nothing as trite as a bucket list.  When you reach a certain age you start thinking about the future, regrets if any, things you would have to leave in a problematic state if you suddenly passed.  I do not have much time left.
 
Twenty five years ago I did something incredibly foolish.  It was impulsive, non-violent, sexually-motivated, selfish.  It inconvenienced a woman, violated her space, and I regretted it almost immediately.  And for the next twenty-five years.  I’ve tried getti...

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Structuring of Sessions

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, January 31, 2016, In : Sessioning 
There are various ways I conduct sessions (of an online or real-time nature). They can be as high-protocol as necessary, or they can be quite low-protocol. My specific protocol is blended, mostly. Though I do have more formal lines:

Very High Protocol: Militaristic, controlled.

Default State - Silence until spoken to - when answering a question about yourself, answer in third person.
(e.g. "This slave will get no reward, acknowledged, Madame. It has been punished effectively.").
Gesture Command...
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My list of kinks and fetishes.

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, December 28, 2015, In : Personal Interests 
Here are a few of My favorite things, annotated:

Caging and chastity are some of the most effective methods of control, for Me. I find that, especially with slaves who are very concerned with their little heads, rendering their penis ineffective for reaching the state of mental "clarity" associated with post-orgasmic brain activity - makes them putty in My hands.

Breath control is hands-down an incredibly intense way to sharply focus someone's entire body. The fact that a human life is entirely...
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I am not a persona.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, December 25, 2015, In : Personal Interests 
In the most vanilla facets of My life -- the mundane experiences any (even Divine) creature among mortals has to face -- I am still extreme.

My favorite things are extremely invasive: the more I know you, your secrets, the things nobody in your life sees except maybe a priest, shrink, best friend, or lover - the better. Even with friends, this is My preference.

Browsing financial transactions, presenting Myself with things straight from the gift-horse, feeling around in your income/debt, decidi...

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My Session Goals.

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, December 5, 2015, In : Sessioning 
When entering into a position of risk, the reward is not simply the act of risk-taking. Something has to incentivize such a situation, making it, as they say, "worth the risk". In the case of a professional session, one is risking the loss associated with Tributing for a session that ends up being a letdown. This creates fear of the session ending without meeting a particular goal (or set of them). This is an unfounded fear, seen as legitimate only because the submissive is unaware that I car...

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Finslavery, My brand.

Posted by Madame Rax on Thursday, September 10, 2015, In : Madame's Own 
I was asked about how I conduct My finslaves' lives and experiences, vis-a-vis micromanagement and methods. Here was My response:

I micromanage every facet a slave is comfortable relinquishing control of, and usually quite a deal more than that. On the lighter side, I will use budgets and allowances; keeping reigns on your spending habits, and deciding how your paycheck is allocated. On the heavier side, I use tracking programs, surveillance, and keep passwords, records, and collateral. Lighte...

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