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Holding Submissives Accountable (pt. II)

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, December 2, 2018, In : D/s Dynamics 
(Click here for Pt. I if you haven't read it yet.)

I received a quality message from a long-distance submissive the other day:



The messages go on to outline how exactly this situation will be ameliorated, and it was. This is a perfect example, despite the notable lack of "I apologize." A trifecta: acceptance, confession, action. Here is the breakdown:



Acceptance creates the conditions necessary to overcome an obstacle. When a submissive understands that their behavior is problematic, it starts t...

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Holding Submissives Accountable (pt. I)

Posted by Madame Rax on Thursday, November 29, 2018, In : D/s Dynamics 
As Dominants, we've encountered submissives who chronically try to avoid liability and blame. They'll say anything possible to get out of trouble. They'll make excuses, become withdrawn/avoidant, and deflect - going to great lengths to take the focus off a problem they've created. But this creates a new problem; because they’re busy steering clear of culpability, they’re refusing to ameliorate the actual stumbling block.

“BUT MY CHILDHOOD”
“BUT MY FEELINGS”
“BUT WHEN I WAS A K...
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Sexual Sublimation: A Chastity Retrospective

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, August 20, 2018, In : Personal Interests 
In My personal life, I have recently given up a very emotionally time-consuming habit. It has led to freeing up a LOT of time and energy, which I will use to be more productive in a BDSM capacity. And as soon as this liberation occurred, I considered just how draining it was to live the way I had for quite some time. This process of funneling led Me to reflect on our bodies, psychological states, and what we do with both. Which brought Me to Chastity. 



Having seen a few divergent prevailing id...

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The Rapture of Surrender

Posted by Madame Rax on Tuesday, May 29, 2018, In : Madame's Own 
It is exceedingly difficult for even the most pliable of submissives to make the transformative Total Power Exchange (TPE). 

The slave wants to rebel, break free, fight back. Their own narratives are central to their desires. Their whims come first.

So what happens if they give them up? 

Many things, if the Dominant is a good one. 

The initial surrender may feel terrifying, especially to a person who is as guarded as most submissives are. Because Dominance is so commonly abused, slaves must pract...
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The Guilt / Shame Cycle

Posted by Madame Rax on Tuesday, April 24, 2018, In : D/s Dynamics 
Due to the nature of My work, I have taken many submissives who experience a very profound cycle.

Lurking and Learning - they try to get to know Me on a desperate level. Furiously Googling every corner of the web for My name and permutations of My contact information to try to figure out if I'm "safe" and "sane." Looking for evidence that I'm some sort of whatever their worst case scenario is. Cannot find it, because I'm not a thief and I'm far too much of an anarchist to cooperate with author...
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My Domination Toolbox

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, April 13, 2018, In : Madame's Own 
In order to be an effective Dominant, I've gone through a long process of acquiring tools and honing techniques. Each one I've honed to My liking. As I always say, Dominance is getting your slave to want what YOU want... for their benefit -- and ultimately yours.

The tools I've developed for this are the following:
 
Logic
Exampling
Punishment
Tease/Denial
Conditioning
Sexuality
Force

Logic is a tool that is most effective for convincing a slave they *need* to do something, or they'll naturally e...

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Updates for the Recently Deceased:

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, March 17, 2018, In : Sessioning 
Where hath your Madame gone, lately?

Well, in December, I was in a coma. Had pneumonia, lungs failed, on life support, almost died. Had to fully recover once extubated (VERY Exorcist, roman shower fetishists would have loved it). Have returned to being a POWERHOUSE. Physically more healthy than I've been in years, stronger (going to the gym a lot), and quit smoking - to some of your chagrin. 

I've made this site more mobile-friendly.
I had a beautiful session with My trans chastity slave. 
I have...
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On the Flimsy Nature of Submission

Posted by Madame Rax on Thursday, January 18, 2018, In : Madame's Own 
Many submissives have a dichotomous relationship with being Dominated:

On one hand, they can be fastidious, dedicated, focused, and unyielding in the face of adversity.

But on the other hand, they can be finicky, wishy-washy, unreasonably preferential, and living more in fantasy than reality.

Dominance should optimize. A good Dominant will use a submissive to the best of their ability; a smile will creep across His/Her face when the slave has done an impressive thing. A great Dominant will take ...
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Calculating a Podcast

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, June 24, 2017, In : Madame's Own 
So, I have been putting forth effort in other areas than social media lately. I obviously have BDSM on My mind most of the time, if not always churning away in the background, but I have been paving a new path for Myself.

I am going to be creating a podcast. 

I have questions, ready and willing experts in their respective psychological fields, I'm building equipment. 

If you'd like to help, email TheMadame@MadameRax.com with information about yourself, including:

Capacity to aid:
Willing time to w...
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Constructing a Submissive Cue Glossary

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, December 14, 2016, In : Madame's Own 
In BDSM, communication is key. But what happens when dirty talk or extensive discussion - or even words themselves - are the enemy? 

Construct a glossary and give it to your Dominant.

If verbal communication is not your primary method of externalizing how you feel, you can think of all of the ways you show your feelings. Take a photo of each face or gesture, put it in a chart, and use a brief sentence to explain how you feel in any given situation.



This does not have to be a graphic, though a gl...

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All Women Secretly Love Being Dominated

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, December 10, 2016, In : Personal Interests 
If you have ever read the comments on an article about consent or courting women, you will likely see the phrase "deep down, all women love to be dominated." I am personally met with inquiries fairly regularly: "Madame, You are a powerful, sexy woman, I bet You just LOVE let your hair down and take the business end of a whip, or get a firm backhand from an Alpha Male, right?" After all, it would make sense to be a Person-of-Power activity - male CEOs have the stereotype that they all love to ...
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50 Shades of Trump: A Dominatrix's View.

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, October 12, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 


Surprise, surprise. Back to talking about 50 Shades again. Because if there's anything more beloved by the masses than taking BDSM out of context, it's using it to excuse abuse and violation. 

Starting off: there is an extreme difference between Dominance and abuse. That difference is consent. Consent is a ubiquitous necessity, even for vanilla people! A lack of it is what elevates the average sexual experience from intercourse to sexual assault. It's what changes boxing to attempted murder. T...

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Managing a Harem Effectively.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, October 7, 2016, In : Personal Interests 
In my time, I've managed quite a few groups of humans. Some of which were lovers, friends, cohabitants, volunteers, slaves. I have had simultaneous lovers living with Me, and I've had lovers living in separate spaces who came together with Me. It can be very difficult to manage these groups, but I've acquired some helpful tips for those who are brave (and perhaps ridiculous) enough to walk in My shoes. But it is also necessary to provide a solid foundation on which to give this information:

Th...
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Fifty Shades Darker.

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, September 28, 2016, In : Madame's Own 
Sometimes, I cannot believe I am addressing this 50 Shades nonsense. 

But I do anyway, because I would be remiss to ignore a cultural phenomenon that affects My precious community.

Getting down to it:

Essentially, 50 Shades of Grey created a fairly unhealthy, romanticized view of abuse for plenty of people (with little or no prior exposure to BDSM proper) who watched it. In BDSM, there is no shortage of outrageous nonsense, including aggressive blowjob videos that spin a BDSM session fantasy in ...
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Praise for Well-Behaved Submissive Men.

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, August 27, 2016, In : Sessioning 
It is with a dichotomy that We in the Pro-Domme sphere regard men:

On the one hand, our biggest flakes, most disgusting situations, worst scenes, and godawful experiences are with men.

On the other hand, our biggest fans, most wonderful situations, best scenes, and ecstatic experiences are with men.

A horrible "slave" is a wanna-be, big talker/no action douchebag, a loser of the highest order (whose dick size I won't even give them the satisfaction of addressing), and I've seen accounts of viole...
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Michael Phelps' kink links: BDSM and Cupping!

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, August 13, 2016, In : Personal Interests 
Michael Phelps is no stranger to controversy. Just as he excels in his respective sports, he draws a commensurate amount of attention to his personal life. In 2004, he was arrested and sentenced to 18 months' probation for a DUI charge. In 2009, a photo was published where he was smoking a bong filled with marijuana. This caused him to receive disciplinary action from several sponsor companies, and seemed to damage his relationship with some of his younger fans. In 2012, he was arrested again...
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Tickle Torture and the Psychology of "Oochy-Coochy-Coo"

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, August 3, 2016, In : Madame's Own 
Tickling is a phenomenon. Outwardly a playful, laughter-inducing activity, it can be lighthearted and pleasant. But it has a darker side: tickling indicates dominance, can reduce someone to tears, and it has even been used as a method to kill people at various times in history, including the Holocaust.

So, what is tickling? First, it is necessary to note that not all tickling is the same. There are two types of tickle sensations that are perceptible to human touch. The first is called knismes...
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Newsletter! Changes! Updates! *lure*

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, July 20, 2016, In : Madame's Own 
Ch-ch-ch-changes!

MadameRax.com has had some revamping:

Findom menu now includes Bitcoin, a gallery of gifts, and the beginnings of My video catalog
There is now an "Invasive Measures" section, with blackmail and surveillance.
In surveillance, I listed the programs I use for distance monitoring/control.
I added a menu under "About" for Stats - so you can see more about Me.
Writing is a new menu item, and that is where this Blog is located. 
Sessions gained menus for ABDL, Double Domme, and Trainin...
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A Love Letter to Servants and Slaves.

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, June 25, 2016, In : Personal Interests 
Despite My very clear and present Atheism, I am incredibly excited by religiosity, particularly of the Christian variety. The imagery, the moral outrage, the judgment, damnation, mortification of the flesh, transmogrification, incest, abuse, torture, withholding, punishment. It's all terribly resplendent to Me, and thus I find Myself very attracted to the deviant, sinful, and immoral behaviors that provoke the wrath of an entire deity. 

We often say in BDSM, that our practice is a "break" from...
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Help! I'm not like this, it's just my fantasy!

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, June 10, 2016, In : Personal Interests 
Over the years, I have had clients say to Me, "look, I'm really not a misogynist, but I have this overwhelming fantasy of watching women get stabbed in the stomach" - or -"I have this awkward fantasy where I'm yelling racist slurs at people outside my race, and it makes me uncomfortable!"

Know that you are not alone in your apprehension.  

I was speaking to a friend of Mine earlier, and he confided that he was concerned about some of his fetishes, because they involved fantasies which revolved ...
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On Bad Behavior of Submissives Who Seek Pro-Dommes.

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, May 28, 2016, In : Sessioning 
Due to the nature of My specific type of BDSM practice, I am woefully disgusted by many things that Dommes endure. When I see reviews of other Dommes using language intended for self-described "whoremonger" review sites. Within the sites that contain testimonials about fellow Dommes in My area, it is not uncommon to see descriptions of body parts or types written as a butcher would describe cuts of their slaughter. For women who don't mind this level of objectification (mind you, I use that t...
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Synergy and the Beast.

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, May 21, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 


In any relationship, BDSM or otherwise, a dance takes place. This sort of dance may be singularly beneficial, separate but equally beneficial, toxic (to one or both, multiplicative or otherwise), or synergistic. The goal of a BDSM relationship, as well as a vanilla one, should be synergy.

To start, synergy is not some sort of "woo" term with metaphysical underpinnings. It's not what powers the imaginary Illuminati. It isn't the stuff Jesus is made of; it's a concrete principle. Simply put, it...
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Living, Breathing TPE.

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, April 17, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 


In the BDSM community, there are quite a few mentions of TPE. This is especially true when discussing fantasies. Despite the fact that there are many fantasy-based desires for a Total Power Exchange, very few people are actually comfortable engaging in it, in real life. Slaves are often afraid to give that much of themselves to another person, even though the thought may temporarily excite them. Given that TPE involves a lack of limits and completely entrenched slavery with potentially very l...

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BDSM as Liability, Free from Culpability.

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, March 28, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 
Within the mainstream media, there are instances of pernicious uses of BDSM terms. Ignorant appropriations with reductive effects abound. Misunderstandings are the norm, rather than the exception. As most BDSM Professionals can attest, there are very few cases, if any, that present D/s dynamics in the proper light. In order to dispel many myths, I will personally go through a few situations, and correct them. 

Jian Ghomeshi.



This case happened in Canada. At first, it was reported (in the US, at...
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Framing a Powerful Session

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, March 16, 2016, In : Sessioning 
As I've mentioned before, the goal of My sessions is to elicit a powerful moment. A catharsis, or at the very least, a wave of emotions -- all in the context of underlying nurturance. So, what is nurturance, and how is it applicable to BDSM? 

Nurturance is emotional or physical care and nourishment of someone who, for the purposes of this post, is usually in a vulnerable position. It is an idea that has gained traction in popular blog posts, such as this one, The Opposite of Rape Culture is Nu...
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Domme-Avoidance.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, February 26, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 
There are few things more enraging for a Domme than avoidance. Many manifestations of this frustrating behavior are apparent in the Pro-Domme world:
  • refusing to leave a deposit or other required component of sessioning
  • flaking out, no-call/no-show, complete disregard for communication
  • not Tributing a proper, required, or pre-determined amount 
  • not returning phone calls or emails for more information
  • ignoring a Domme's repeated and consistent wishes
  • refusing to give personal information when require...

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My Methodology, in points.

Posted by Madame Rax on Thursday, February 18, 2016,
The first step is reviewing My website. It is full of information about Me, My thoughts and evil-doing, and the method to My madness. There are all sorts of links, videos, and other tidbits on there. Learn it, absorb it, feel it, attach to it, live it. If you approach Me, show your preparedness: I am not going to engage in small talk and nonsense. If I were to cater to every slave I’d be in the hole, rather than the black. And I revel in the black.

The second step is filling out any appropri...

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Breakthrough.

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, February 10, 2016, In : Rehabilitation 
"It’s nothing as trite as a bucket list.  When you reach a certain age you start thinking about the future, regrets if any, things you would have to leave in a problematic state if you suddenly passed.  I do not have much time left.
 
Twenty five years ago I did something incredibly foolish.  It was impulsive, non-violent, sexually-motivated, selfish.  It inconvenienced a woman, violated her space, and I regretted it almost immediately.  And for the next twenty-five years.  I’ve tried getti...

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Structuring of Sessions

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, January 31, 2016, In : Sessioning 
There are various ways I conduct sessions (of an online or real-time nature). They can be as high-protocol as necessary, or they can be quite low-protocol. My specific protocol is blended, mostly. Though I do have more formal lines:

Very High Protocol: Militaristic, controlled.

Default State - Silence until spoken to - when answering a question about yourself, answer in third person.
(e.g. "This slave will get no reward, acknowledged, Madame. It has been punished effectively.").
Gesture Command...
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Cardinal Sins of Submission

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, January 8, 2016, In : D/s Dynamics 
There are quite a few things I've noticed that submissives will do wrong, that Dommes will tolerate. It is time that Dommes stop tolerating this nonsense:

1. Time-Wasting - If you want to speak to a Domme, remunerate Her for Her time. $20-$50 is appropriate for most Dommes. If you are not prepared to do this, talk to an amateur (who may be a man hiding behind a computer screen, for all you know). A Domme is not the place to have fantasy-life diarrhea. She is valuable and has a good amount of i...
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My list of kinks and fetishes.

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, December 28, 2015, In : Personal Interests 
Here are a few of My favorite things, annotated:

Caging and chastity are some of the most effective methods of control, for Me. I find that, especially with slaves who are very concerned with their little heads, rendering their penis ineffective for reaching the state of mental "clarity" associated with post-orgasmic brain activity - makes them putty in My hands.

Breath control is hands-down an incredibly intense way to sharply focus someone's entire body. The fact that a human life is entirely...
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I am not a persona.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, December 25, 2015, In : Personal Interests 
In the most vanilla facets of My life -- the mundane experiences any (even Divine) creature among mortals has to face -- I am still extreme.

My favorite things are extremely invasive: the more I know you, your secrets, the things nobody in your life sees except maybe a priest, shrink, best friend, or lover - the better. Even with friends, this is My preference.

Browsing financial transactions, presenting Myself with things straight from the gift-horse, feeling around in your income/debt, decidi...

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Madame's Brutal Beatdowns and the science of torture.

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, December 14, 2015, In : Madame's Own 
In an article on siberiantimes.com, a shocking headline meets the eye: "Beating addiction out of you - literally." This article goes on to explain the unorthodox method used by Dr. German Pilipenko and his fellow practitioner Professor Marina Chukhrova to help their clients modify addictive behaviors. They use cane therapy to "beat" the addiction out of their clients via the production of endorphins, as well as the reaching of "subspace," etc. Several testimonials and glowing reviews follow, ...

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If you've never seen a professional before...

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, December 6, 2015, In : Sessioning 
There are a few things you need to know, regarding a session with Me.

First, never understate any of your experience. Don't exaggerate either, but it is especially important that you state how much experience you have, in a direct fashion (so I know). Otherwise, I will conduct the session at an introductory-ish level of intensity, rather than pushing and stretching your limits. The goal is to meet and exceed your level. 

Second, sessions act as a barometer for your niche in BDSM. There will alw...
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My Session Goals.

Posted by Madame Rax on Saturday, December 5, 2015, In : Sessioning 
When entering into a position of risk, the reward is not simply the act of risk-taking. Something has to incentivize such a situation, making it, as they say, "worth the risk". In the case of a professional session, one is risking the loss associated with Tributing for a session that ends up being a letdown. This creates fear of the session ending without meeting a particular goal (or set of them). This is an unfounded fear, seen as legitimate only because the submissive is unaware that I car...

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Thanksgiving.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, November 27, 2015, In : Madame's Own 
Madame is thankful for quite a few things. Things you would expect, and things you would not. 

Some of the more strange things I am thankful for include:

1. Fifty Shades of Grey. Not because of the story, but because of the resulting effects. The mainstream public is starting to break down the walls of marginalization and stigma to be able to discuss BDSM. It gets everyone talking. It starts a conversation about a myriad of things, without too many attached horror stories: consent, D/s dynamics...
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Capitalism & Domination: A Love Story

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, November 18, 2015, In : D/s Dynamics 
“Paying for it is a buzzkill.” “I like to have free sessions because it’s more real.” “Other inane platitudes that amount to cheapassery.”

Let’s sit around the campfire and discuss how there is a gulf between submissives and Dommes, in a monetary way. 

First, we shall define money, as provided in a concise sentence provided by Merriam Webster: 


  • Something generally accepted as a medium of exchange, a measure of value, or a means of payment.

When you have the urge to submit to a Dom...

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Cophrophagia, Urolagnia, and Cannibalism - oh My!

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, November 13, 2015, In : Personal Interests 
The Aghori (sadhus) are an ascetic group who live primarily in India - cremation sites, the desolate Thar desert in Gujarat, and freezing Himalayan caves. They take a monist (as opposed to dualist) approach to life, and thus believe that all things most people would consider evil or virtuous are, in fact, one. To the Aghori, there are no Good or Bad things. They believe that they should deny themselves physical pleasures and embrace things humans normally avoid, like death, coprophagia, and c...
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More, on Financial Domination.

Posted by Madame Rax on Thursday, November 5, 2015, In : D/s Dynamics 
Hard-earned dollars, leaving your bank account. I take hold of them, perking up your ears. Honing your senses. It is a fragile and vulnerable place. Dilated pupils, fear response. What will I do? How will you compensate? The control, the grip, the frantic tightness in your fists. They all let go. And I take over.

The application process and buy-in is the first step. Then the monitoring, the interrogation, the questions. The installation of software and apps. The knowledge I gain is the same k...
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Non-Erotic Ageplay for Psychological Value

Posted by Madame Rax on Tuesday, November 3, 2015, In : D/s Dynamics 
In reading a chapter from Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission, I had a sudden realization that Ageplay may have a practical application within the confines of even vanilla relationships. 

As children, most humans come from a place of vulnerability and a cycle of needs/wants. As adults, most people who care for various forms of children have an underlying empathy, compassion, and understanding for these tiny people. As well, said adults have a higher degree of conside...

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The Programs/Websites I Utilize in FinDom & Online Domination.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, October 9, 2015, In : Madame's Own 

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3 Major Communication Problems & Their Fixes.

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, September 21, 2015, In : D/s Dynamics 
In life, most people have difficulty arranging the right words to come out of their face at the correct speed, volume, and inflection to achieve optimal results. To make a business deal, get a job, buy a car, negotiate a rent price, receive a promotion - all of these things require great care in communication. 

Enter personal desire: all of the above things, one can argue, are not necessary per se, but integral to happiness or self-efficacy. But, what happens when the thing you crave isn't nec...
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Finslavery, My brand.

Posted by Madame Rax on Thursday, September 10, 2015, In : Madame's Own 
I was asked about how I conduct My finslaves' lives and experiences, vis-a-vis micromanagement and methods. Here was My response:

I micromanage every facet a slave is comfortable relinquishing control of, and usually quite a deal more than that. On the lighter side, I will use budgets and allowances; keeping reigns on your spending habits, and deciding how your paycheck is allocated. On the heavier side, I use tracking programs, surveillance, and keep passwords, records, and collateral. Lighte...

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A session in pictures.

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, August 16, 2015, In : Sessioning 





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Not just debit card games.

Posted by Madame Rax on Wednesday, August 12, 2015, In : Madame's Own 
Hold account numbers, passwords, access to email, Facebook/SM pages, keyloggers, online text/call/GPS tracker, in-home surveillance with remote viewing, dietary restrictions, occasional Domme-led wishlist spending sprees, booking vacations, occasional assignments, opening lines of credit or loans, blackmail...

These are a few of My favorite things.

Madame.

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Financial Slavery Rehabilitation.

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, August 3, 2015, In : Rehabilitation 
So, I have been thinking lately, about My relationship with slaves who are hopelessly addicted to financial domination. 

When I say "hopelessly addicted" - I mean it. Let's take into account the definition of addiction:

Addiction is a condition that results when a person ingests a substance or engages in an activity that can be pleasurable but the continued use/act of which becomes compulsive and interferes with ordinary life responsibilities, such as work, relationships, or health.

If that isn'...
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A Session in Photos

Posted by Madame Rax on Tuesday, April 14, 2015, In : Sessioning 

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The beginning of My blackmail book.

Posted by Madame Rax on Tuesday, April 14, 2015, In : Blackmail 
A bit of information before you read this: I am writing the beginning of each chapter as a prolonged fiction. Just a few paragraphs, keeping the story going throughout the entire book. The rest of the work is non-fiction; part explanation, part manual, part analysis. 

Hauling against the resistance of the revolving office doors, you emerge and scramble to the train. The only goal is to get home in time to grab the mail as it comes. Becoming keenly aware of every stride, your feet and their awk...

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A Session, In Pictures.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, March 20, 2015, In : Sessioning 





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Discounted sessions? Must love being filmed.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, June 20, 2014, In : Sessioning 
I am seeking video slaves for filmed sessions. Setting will be incall, in Logan Square, and instead of My normal tribute of $250, a filmed session will take place for $150/hr. Incredible and rare discount - don't miss it. I have the camera and equipment, you only need to bring your willingness and consent to be filmed - most of My regular clients are unable to appear on film due to family and lifestyle related reasons.

I am looking for the following sorts of sessions:

  • Feminization
  • Spanking with ...

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Not a Prostitute.

Posted by Madame Rax on Thursday, March 6, 2014, In : D/s Dynamics 
Anyone who knows Me will vouch for the fact that I am very much an advocate for prostitutes. I work diligently in several ways to try to point out inconsistencies in the law and practice, have written several very public pieces about the problems that arise from the criminalization of prostitution, and that I'm still actively trying to get sex work included in the NCSF's statements - because sexual freedom doesn't stop at kink - the freedom to SELL sex is a sexual freedom issue.

That said: I a...

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Madame's Own Sessions:

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, February 17, 2014, In : Madame's Own 
There are quite a few unique types of sessions that I've pioneered over the years, and I will share a few now:

1. Bad Girlfriend Sessions: I developed this type of session approximately seven years ago. In a public setting (such as a mall, outlet center, or set of stores), I drag you around, being bossy and pushy (though not too over-the-top if discretion is a must), and do demeaning, nasty things to you. I berate you, have you count every dollar out loud that you give to a cashier, require th...
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Lady and the Trampled.

Posted by Madame Rax on Monday, February 17, 2014, In : Sessioning 
A recent session I facilitated was a trampling session. It was pretty enjoyable. I loved to be able to crush his tiny, frail body under My weight and power. Hard surfaces, soft surfaces, kicking, spitting, puppy/pony play, I was a giantess and he was My hapless victim. Slipped into space a few times, I had to slap him back into reality. The soundtrack was delighful, and I'm glad it went well, despite the narrow interests of the sub. 


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Most recent session.

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, January 31, 2014, In : Sessioning 
Blindfolded, gagged, mummified, e-stim with a TENS unit, wartenberg pinwheel bastinado, extreme degradation and humiliation, golden delights, and human ashtray. All were beautiful. I approve this slave's stamina!
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What Sorts of Things Will Madame Rax Do?

Posted by Madame Rax on Friday, January 24, 2014, In : Sessioning 
So, in My bag of tricks, I have a myriad of items:

Bondage-Related: Ropes of different types and textures. Under-bed restraint system. Blindfolds. Handcuffs. Plastic Wrap.
E-Stim: 7-mode, 5-level intensity TENS Unit.
Impact: My hands, floggers, whips, canes, rulers, and other delights.
Misc: Large and small cocks (tease only, no penetration), makeup for feminization, and many other session-specific items.

I can accommodate: adult baby sessions with diapers and a few select props, foot fetish/wor...
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Domination in Stages: Hegelian Dialectics and D/s relationships.

Posted by Madame Rax on Sunday, December 15, 2013, In : D/s Dynamics 
In the more philosophy-heavy sects of BDSM, practitioners will discuss Foucault and hierarchies of power. This has an obvious connection: D/s dynamics are reflections of the "natural order" brought about by the human desire for organization. I, however, prefer to make more subtle connections to behavioral mechanisms within My own brand of Domination. I use a system in which I like to draw on an altered form of Hegelian dialectics, specifically the so-called "freedom dialectic" or, more approp...
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